Balance

I broke up with Facebook last night.

Our relationship started out just fine. There was balance. I logged on only every few days, saw what my friends were up to, posted cute pics and then logged off. Status updates made me nervous. “No one is going to care what I’m doing,” I thought. I was wrong.

I have six children and they are all pretty cute. Things are plain funny around here. After posting a few Jobelette quotes, status updates became pretty easy as well as entertaining for all my friends and family. My poor kids began saying, “Mom, please don’t put that on Facebook (whenever saying something I found funny).” Once I began posting updates, I began getting comments. Then I began logging in a little more frequently than I once did.

I enjoy writing. It’s a way I unwind. I began periodically posting notes about family life. Again, I’d post and get comments and then “need” to see who was saying what!

My favorite thing to post was pictures. The same darling children who say cute things take awesome pictures! However, again… the more pics I uploaded, the more I logged on.

Gradually, my relationship with FB became one of imbalance. It took just too much out of me. So, after praying about it, I decided to give it a break.

I enjoy writing and my favorite thing about FB is keeping in contact with my family. My sister and parents and in-laws are not local. They loved keeping up with all the cute pictures, videos, and updates. So, I am going to attempt to keep a blog to fill that need. My hope is that I can chronicle all the fun things and maybe not so fun things better in a blog format. Doing this also keeps me from getting sucked into the newsfeed and mindlessly wasting precious time on the computer. One of the last things I read on Facebook before deactivating was a note written by Spunky Homeschool. It completely affirmed my decision to take a FB sabbatical:

Mom’s on the Computer (sung to the tune Cat’s in the Cradle)

My computer arrived just the other day,
It came on the porch in the usual way
So many blogs to read and games to play
My child learned to walk, while I twittered away
And he was talkin’ for I knew it, as my friends list grew
He’d say I’m gonna be like you mom
You know I’m gonna be like you

And mom’s lost on the computer, lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
we’re gonna have a good time then

My son turned ten just the other day
He said “thanks for the wii, mom, come on let’s play”
“Can you teach me how it works?” I said “Not today”
“I got a blog to write” he said “that’s okay”
And he walked away while the computer never dimmed
He said, “I’m gonna be like them, yeah”
You know I’m gonna be like them

And mom’s lost on the computer lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
We’re gonna have a good time then

Well my son came home just the other day
iPod in his ears, while he texted away
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and he said with a smile
“I’d really like to Mom, but talkins’ not my thing”
“Check my status, for what’s happening”

And mom’s lost on the computer lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting’ off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then

Well my blog’s retired and my Facebook out-of-date
My son texted, “Hey mom, I just can’t relate”
I said, “I’d like to see you if you have some time.”
He said, “I’d love to mom but skype if you don’t mind.
You see my website’s down and my workload just grew
but it’s been nice texting with you, mom
It’s sure been nice texting with you.”

And as I typed “goodbye,” it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And mom’s lost on the computer lettin’ dinner burn
Little boy wanders, he just wants to learn
When you getting’ off mom?
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then

Voddie Bauchum says, “If you can’t say A-Men, ya gotta say OUCH!” Now, I can say my life hasn’t gotten that out of balance, but I don’t want it to either! My prayer is that I can limit my new blog time to after my children go to bed. I enjoy writing, but I love engaging with my family and giving them my full attention more. Doing this requires discipline – not to waste time on things that ultimately don’t matter.

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One Response to “Balance”

  1. Daniel Says:

    Wow. This is really nice!

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